Since the beginning of this year alone, abuse has been talked about more than it ever has. Many celebrities have spoken out and several very publicized news stories, have hit our front doors. Literally! But why are so many more not able to stand up?Something I’ve keenly noticed in peoples interactions with each other. Is also something that I feel is holding our families together, as well as ripping us apart. Some may argue, so again this is just my opinion. However, the thing that I believe is both hurting families and also helping, is Loyalty. It has become a huge problem! For some. Though it’s such a small word, it holds such a HUGE place in people’s heart.
Your probably asking why I would say Loyalty? So lets get to the point. I believe that loyalty is what keeps families together because it teaches us standards, values and morals in how important holding those around you at a high esteem is. The kind of thing that teaches you what’s acceptable and not acceptable in family relationships. Loyalty has become; “What goes on in this house, stays in this house.” Nice saying. Yet it means that abuse, addition and more are left in he dark. Ultimately ripping a family apart due to resentment. Loyalty has become an aspect of keeping family members comfortable with each other in the presence of the public. It also has people naively believing that certain actions will disappear if no one acts as if it’s happened. Leaving many to never healed. I understand how important family is but some of us would rather not heal at the expense of maintaining our loyalty to family. All must remember that your loyalty should always be to your faith and yourself first and foremost. A family member telling you to be loyal and not speak up to something that is usually shunned in society, shows a lack of loyalty to your well-being, on your families behalf. Stop allowing your families to control your happiness and peace. Especially if it’s at the expense of saving the families name. Because that’s all it is, a name. It’s neither here nor there.
Besides its another form of abuse that ultimately adds to your healing process. Have you been homeless for family loyalty? I for one have.
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