THE RIHANNA INTERVIEW: MY THOUGHTS

I know, i know it's time to move on from this but since its hot topic and i feel twitter didn't give me enough characters to speak i will say my piece.

Rihanna's interview for me was very honest. I know Chris stated in his interview earlier Friday with Sway that he would prefer her not to give details. I think it was only fair, being that he's had several interviews. Though i wholeheartedly believe and KNOW that people can change. I feel that his continuous statements, tribute songs, and etc are further abusive and hindering her from moving on. My honest opinion about Chris's feelings are from his body language in interviews. I feel he's sorry, however he's more concerned about his career. THAT'S MY OPINION. While his friends are rooting for him and speaking on his behave, at times. They only know what he has told them. So they can't speak. As i recall the car was a two seater. As well as this situation.

Anyway, i believe that, Rihanna was never given a fair amount of time to deal with this problem and i think its happening amidst the album release to help her take the elephant out of the room when she goes on all her promo stops. Yes the timing is funny, but so what! So is my time of the month, when i think I'm about to ..(you know), So is my car getting towed when i have no money. None of us know her intentions or whether or not she even really wanted to discuss the matter. Yes, she may have left out some parts of the argument, and some people are stating "She's lieing because she had hit him, just makes sense". Well in my years on this planet alot doesn't make sense but i accept it. Why because I CAN'T PROVE IT! I find it to be an ignorant excuse to make it okay for him to beat her and for her embarrassment to be made a laughing stock. I have friends whom have been beat and I've watched with my own eyes, they didn't hit the guy first. He just couldn't take her continuous nagging. (Not saying that this is the case). Both of them come from abusive backgrounds so this to them and many was/is normal, everyday life. It's a chain reaction, for what they both already knew as love. it's hard to break without help.

i've been there, I've had counseling, I've worked with PADV. Yea someone can state that maybe i don't have a foundation to stand on. But when you don't know the whole story or the persons in the situation your comments and judgements aren't brick layers in building a home for that foundation. It takes a lot for a someone male or female to admit that they are victims of abuse because A:People are always going to say "What did you do?" B: Its embarrassing to say you chose that person, because people look at you as not being "smart" enough to make good choices C: You will continue to be victimized because you are now label "the woman or male that got beat up."

I applaud Rihanna because you can tell by her tone and body language she hasn't fully dealt with the situation. Not only that but to realize that this situation is bigger than her career, this situation is bigger than Chris Brown, this situation is a silent killer. I commend both of them for saying their pieces, but i have empathy for them, no sympathy. (If you need to understanding the difference look them up) Only because i don't have sympathy for my own life, but i can put myself in both their shoes.

REAL TALK: I feel the way i feel because I've lived it. I was sexually molested as a child, that's where all the statistics for my life started to fall out of whack. The movie "Enough" with Jennifer Lopez, is my mother exact story, give or take a few things and more intense beating. For years, and and even still to this day, i slept with headphones on when i go to bed, because sometimes those nights of screaming, were too much for me. As a kid, that was the way i blocked it all out. Going to school and just living everyday like my mother wasn't safe in her own house made me so emotionless to the world. (People will tell you I'm very nonchalant, it's not that i don't care. because i do!) I always said that would never be me.... Until i got into a relationship where i was continuously verbally and mentally abused. I knew it wasn't love, it took for one night i told this person that i didn't want to have sex, and he held me down to the bed and basically raped me. That's what it took, for me to wise up. For some it takes worse. But i found myself afraid, alone because i wasn't going to tell anyone and i just kept saying, YOUR HEADED WHERE YOU SAID YOU'D NEVER BE!! Which is exactly why to this day i say "Never Say Never" Funny thing is after that, i stayed, for awhile longer. I made every excuse and i have no heart feelings, but i remember EVERYTHING. You don't have to provoke someone to hit you, I'm the type of person who find some things so unimportant that its not worth arguing about. But again i found myself with someone once who, felt differently. We got into it, i started to just leave and he grabbed my arm extremely tight. My first thought was "this n**, done lost his mind." But when i turned to look at him eye to eye, he immediately let go. I may not be able to hang if you hit me, but i will find someone to handle it. SIMPLE AND PLAIN! I think, until you've experienced abuse on any front, you don't know or understand what it takes to fully heal, from something or someone clawing away at your spirit. Until you acknowledged it, accept it as your past or present, and the people around you do so as well, it will eat away at you and it takes a lot to tell yourself. You didn't deserve that! It took a lot to get me "Swag Back" Because we're already trained mentally to be the reason why this happened.

I don't care what anyone says, Hitting your partner (male or female) is NOT OKAY! Through my experiences I've learned that Body language is everything...Everything, only someone who's closed minded and blind doesn't notice body language. People always wonder how i can read people so well after a minutes or days of speaking with them. It's their body language. It says so much about people,it's amazing. Gestures, expression, eye contact and reactions. People usually think I'm quiet or not friendly, in the beginning of meeting me. I will admit, I am in the beginning because i have to feel you out, to open up. I have come in contact with some really extreme people in my life, I've learned how to weed people out. Just by being aware and listening. People will tell you everything you need to know. I promise you!

Again this is all my opinion, and i glad it's being discussed because it's helping bring a closet issue to the forefront. My only thing is people need to stop continuing to victimize and demean those involved. I honestly feel that to an extent, both Chris and Rihanna are victims. But this is all my opinion and part of my story, No!, i aint asking for no points, nor do i need a Fu*king cookie, JUST Take how you want to.