So... The other day, I was watching the view, and one of their "hot topics" was the snippet of the Rihanna interview that aired on Good Morning America. Now we know that the full interview airs tonight, but it seems as though A LOT of us have A LOT to say about the small portion of the interview that we have already seen.
On The View, and other media outlets people are insinuating that Rihanna hit Chris with a "low blow" by saying that she was embarrassed that she fell in love. My admonishment to those folks are to A: Listen closely, and B: Put yourself in her shoes for a moment. She didn't say she was embarrassed that she fell in love with Chris, she said that she was embarrassed to have fallen in love "with that type of person". Meaning? She was embarrassed that she fell in love with the TYPE of man who would physically abuse her, the TYPE of man who in a heated moment would disregard any true love they ever shared in an attempt to feed and satisfy his own selfish emotions, the TYPE of man who could disrespect her in such a way. Think about it... If you were in a physically abusive relationship... as a matter of fact I'll put it on me. If I were in a physically abusive relationship, I would be embarrassed once people found out the type of man I chose to be with. I wouldn't feel like the abuse was my fault, but I would feel some type of responsibility in choosing the person and even more in choosing to stay. I wasn't raised to desire that type of man, and neither were most other women. Would you be embarrassed?
There has also been back lash about her saying "eff love". Again, here is where listening skills become imperative. She wasn't saying eff love in general. Her point was; when your health, safety, integrity, and well being are all at risk, you cannot take a chance on losing all of those things/aspects of yourself because you feel like you're in love. When YOU are at stake, your love for self needs to overcome your love for that other person. So yes... in those instances... eff love!
People are wondering what took her so long to speak up about the incident. Here is where we need to realize that yes, legally and even physically she is a woman, but this is a young girl. honestly she is. She's not a 45 year old woman who has lived a little and can see life as clearly. She is a 21 (?) year old woman who has A LOT of living to do. A young woman who probably cannot immediately comprehend the emotions she initially experienced directly after this incident. Not only that... NO ONE WOULD STAY OUT OF HER FACE LONG ENOUGH FOR HER TO COPE and try to get a handle on what was going on inside of her.
Some say that she's only speaking out now because her album is coming out... If this is the case, it's smart marketing. If it isn't, it makes sense because this kind of thing does take time to not only get over, but also to deal with. And obviously during all this time she wasn't sitting in counseling sessions and writing in journals to help herself through this... Her album will be out in a couple of weeks, and I'm sure she spent a lot of time working on this album.
I'm happy she's come to a few realizations about herself, life, and love. I think it's beautiful. It's sad that this had to happen for her to come to these conclusions, but that's the beauty of life... We cannot all have the same experiences, and sometimes it takes heavier situations for some of us to learn than others. It's definitely beautiful that she can send such a powerful and positive message to millions of young girls.
Honestly I'm tired of this Chris and Rihanna saga. Let's all just let them both learn their lessons, live their lives and grow up. It's what we all need to do anyway.